And then that selfish, inconsiderate bastard of my SO had to go and have a stroke.
I say that with well, love, yes, but also exasperation, which doesn't negate the fact that the past week and a half were probably the most terrifying in my life. His too, no doubt, but there's something especially terrifying about being left the grown-up in charge of the other grown-up.
Anyway, not to dramatize. He's fine. Complete recovery. Which is actually a problem in itself, but I won't go into that here. I am also fine, but running slightly late. Not so much on the immediate projects because they were far enough along that the sudden explosion of plans and schemes and strategies did not actually set me back too much. But certain projects have been pushed back about two weeks.
Which is kind of disappointing for all concerned, but here's are the lessons of the last week and a half. Things Change. And You Will Adjust.
Generally in that order.
The funny thing about these two lessons is the older you get, the more likely the Things Change part is to happen to you. And the tougher it is on you. :-) But the You Will Adjust remains just as true now as it was back then when things couldn't possibly change fast enough.
Personally I find that kind of comforting. And that's really all I have to say this morning. Have a wonderful weekend!
As we've discussed before, you have to accept the limitations that life puts on you. It's not convenient sometimes, it's not good sometimes. But I saw a meme, which I love, that says something like Always remember, you've gotten through 100% of the trials so far. That's a pretty good record. I'm of the This Too Shall Pass mentality. Hang in there, my friend.
ReplyDelete'Things Change' and 'You Will Adjust.' Sounds like a couple of snappy book titles to me. But seriously, I'm so glad he is going to be fine. Things always DO change, but funny how we always manage to adjust.
ReplyDeleteVery true. Sometimes I think the waiting and the paranoia are worse than the actual "change", once the the change is forced on you, yes, you will adjust. This is especially true for someone like me who have phobia of seeing doctors, running routine tests...
ReplyDeleteSpeedy recovery to your SO and yes, tackle one thing at a time.
Take care!
Dearest Josh,
ReplyDeleteThese "things that change" can turn out to be the most important in our lives. I am so happy for you and K. that there has been a complete recovery. Everything else will get accomplished in its time. Take care, Josh. <3
Things change, for sure and you will adjust, equally true. Sometimes changes are for the better, sometimes not so much, but we humans really are a resilient species. I'm so glad things are getting better and the SO will recover. All my best.
ReplyDeleteVery glad your SO has recovered, but things must have gotten kind of scary there for awhile. Things change and hopefully for the best for you both.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry he had a stroke and I'm sorry you had to go through that. That is so scary. I was in a similar situation recently with my husband in the hospital and experiencing the most terrifying time of my life. I know what you're going through.
ReplyDeleteTake good care of yourself. It's hard to remember to do that when taking care of someone you love.
Things change and you will adjust. So very true, but the interim between this two incidents are very difficult to live. Take care for you too!
ReplyDeleteWish the best for both of you. I'm glad the SO is OK.
ReplyDeleteI am so glad SO is doing well, you are right, things change and you will adjust. Just don't do what I have done, that is to play the what if game, not a good road to go down. Take care of your self and your SO :D
ReplyDeleteGlad to hear the SO is on the road to complete recovery. Best wishes for both of you!
ReplyDeleteI can only imagine how big a scare this must have been for both of you. And I'm so glad things are looking much better now! I do hope that the outcome of your SO's health scare will be something positive. Something to cherish. Like the Leo Tolstoy quote says:
ReplyDelete"Once we're thrown off our habitual paths, we think all is lost, but it's only here that the new and the good begins."
Take care, both of you!
So happy to hear that the SO is doing well. Best wishes and hugs! <3
ReplyDeleteSo great that the SO is fine, but I do understand how that can also be a new problem. ��
ReplyDeleteAck. Been there. Held hubby's hand this spring after they replaced his aorta. Despite the fact that I used to work in the ICU, the fact that he was in it was terrifying. Never mind that he recovered, I will never forget the sight of him unconscious in a nest of leads, hooked up to every monitoring line known to man. The being dead part is easy--it's the getting there that's so hard on everyone.
ReplyDelete"selfish, inconsiderate bastard of my SO","Complete recovery. Which is actually a problem in itself"
ReplyDeleteHum...let me guess. Does that mean he will continue the unhealthy habit/lifestyle which caused the stroke?
Happy that your SO is in complete recovery, and wishing the same for you. It's challenging for both parties, whether you're the one afflicted or the one waiting to hear/future caregiver-nagger. Take care.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes for a speedy recovery to your other half. It's only when I see these unexpected things happen to others that I put my own challenges in perspective.
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